Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Not wrong, just different

  • Why do some people have the "my way or the highway" mentality? Just because something is different, doesn't make it wrong.
  • Why do I HAVE to do things the way you did them?
  • Why must everything I do be taken as a personal insult?
  • When will it be OK for me to raise MY CHILDREN, MY WAY?
  • Why would a 40-something woman liken herself to a 90-something great grandmother, just to prove a point?
  • Why would a grandma THREATEN to move 12 hrs away from her grandchildren, or never get them Christmas gifts again just because she can't get her way?
  • Why would someone accuse her own daughter of not loving her?
  • Why would someone keep herself from seeing her own family on Christmas out of sheer stubbornness?
  • Why would someone who supposedly "hates" the way her mother acts, act THE EXACT SAME WAY?
  • Why, would you act like a petulant child because everything can't be the exact way you want it?
  • Why wouldn't you just enjoy the second best option and make it as nice as possible?

These are the questions plaguing my brain for the last couple of days (among many others). I guess there are some people that I will never understand. People that need to control everything and everyone and have everything THEIR WAY, or just not at all. I feel like I can't make everyone happy, no matter what I do. So I've chosen my children, my husband and myself. I've chosen our happiness over hers. And I still feel like a failure. But I'm a failure either way, so...


Danifred said...

Here's the great news: You are not a failure.
Here's the sad news: Our mothers must have come from the same mold.
At some point, we just need to keep reminding ourselves that we are doing the right things for OUR children and that's all that really matters in the end.

Lindsay said...

As long as you are doing what is best for your children and your family then you ARE NOT A FAILURE! And I am pretty sure that your kids would agree with me. No one has the right to tell you what to do with your kids! They are your kids and you can raise them the way that you want to.